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Abigail Adams to Thomas Jefferson, 1804

Abigail Adams writes to console Thomas Jefferson on the death of his daughter Maria, whom Adams had cared for years earlier.

Quincy May 20 1804

Sir

Had you been no other than the private inhabitant of Monticello, I should e'er this time, have addrest you with that sympathy which a recent event has awakened in my Bosom. But reasons of various kinds withheld my pen, untill the powerfull feelings of my heart, have burst through the restraint, and called upon me to shed the tear of sorrow over the departed remains of your beloved and deserving daughter, an event which I most sincerely mourn.

The attachment which I formed for her, when you committed her to my care upon her arrival in a foreign land, has remained with me to this hour, and the account of her death, which I read in a late paper, recalled to my remembrance the tender scene of her seperation from me, when, with the whole force of her childlike nature, she clung to me, and wet my Bosom with her tears, saying, O! now I have learnt to Love you, why will they tear me from you?

It has been some time since that I conceived of any event in this life, which could call forth feelings of mutual sympathy. But I know how closely entwined around a parents heart are those chords which bind the filial to the parental Bosom, and when snaped asunder, how agonizing the pangs of seperation.

I have tasted the bitter cup, and how well I know how to sympathize with those who drink it to the dregs.

I do most sincerely condole with you. It is a loss which you will feel through every period of your future life, and none but those who have experienced the like can judge of the desolation it occasions.

Receive, Sir, the assurance that with every sentiment of Respect and esteem I am,

Your Humble Servant, A Adams

Why this letter

Thomas Jefferson's daughter Maria (known as Polly) had stayed with John and Abigail Adams in London as a child in 1787, on her way to join her father in Paris, and Abigail had grown attached to her. When Maria died in 1804, Abigail Adams wrote this letter of condolence to Jefferson, despite the bitter political rivalry that had ended her husband's friendship with him after the election of 1800. The letter led to a short further exchange between Abigail and Jefferson, though it would be years before Jefferson and John Adams themselves resumed writing to each other.

Provenance

Author
Abigail Adams (1744–1818)
To
Thomas Jefferson
Written
20 May 1804, Quincy
Source
Founders Online, National Archives
Rights
Public domain — Abigail Adams died in 1818; this text follows the transcription hosted by the National Archives.

From The Adams Papers, as edited and hosted by Founders Online, National Archives.

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